An Update to Our Story from the Past 45 Days Well, we’re halfway through the 90 day therapeutic separation.  I thought it would be a good idea to give a little update because God has been doing some big stuff!  We ended up changing a few of the parameters to the plan after about a week.  I’d like to explain those changes and then get to telling you about some of those big ole mountains God has been moving.  The thing is, I’ve tried and tried to condense this down to a reasonable length for a single post, and there’s just too much I wantRead More →

Introducing Hope for Today

It has been a real joy for me to write this blog.  It has helped me more than words can express to process my own journey toward healing and to share it with others, all the while seeking to glorify God and to be an encouragement to those who read it.  I discovered something, though, as I’ve been writing:  The posts that brought me the greatest joy to write were the same posts that seemed to be the biggest encouragement to my readers.  They were the posts that were filled with scripture; the posts in which I allowed the Word of God to do theRead More →

Hope For Today: Daily Encouragement for a Healing Heart from the Word of God #hisdearlyloveddaughter #hopefortoday

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I have just read, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal, by Barbara Steffens, PhD, LPCC, and Marsha Means, MA.  I have to say, I’ve read a lot of helpful books in the last few years, but this one is by far the best one yet!  I really cannot recommend it more highly.  In fact,  I recommend this book not only to the spouses of sex/porn addicts, but also to anyone who is trying to understand or help those partners.  This book will offer so much insight into the trauma that the betrayed spouse deals with everyday.  Both my love and IRead More →

Sometimes life gets foggy.  For one reason or another stress piles up and it becomes difficult to navigate or even find the path forward.  When that stress is a result of deep betrayal, especially when it has been repeated again and again, the fog is likely to gather all around our perceptions of ourselves.  Insecurity is almost inevitable.  It can become so very difficult to find truth when our thoughts are clouded by questions like: Who am I? Do I matter to anyone? What’s wrong with me? Am I worthless? Is there anything about me that’s likable? Am I ugly? Is there any purpose leftRead More →

Life is a series of seasons.  One thing I love about the Word of God is that it is relevant in each and every one of those seasons.  I love that it is living and active! I love that what I read today, God will use to meet me where I am today.  He will use it to speak to me each and every time I come earnestly seeking Him, each time I come listening. Several nights ago, Psalm 37 was part of my daily Bible reading plan and my goodness, did it ever speak to me!  Ever since that night I have been goingRead More →

One night, while I was deep in a depression brought on by the turmoil in my life, God used a song to speak directly to me. Skillet's song "Stars" will forever be special to me because of that night. God reignited my hope in those moments, and reassured me of His love. #hisdearlyloveddaughter #skillet #panhead #stars

Do you ever come across a song that seems to have been written just for you?  Or, do you ever turn the radio on and feel like God orchestrated the song that was playing right at that moment so that He could speak directly to you?  Those are the moments when God feels so near, so personal, aren’t they? This happened most recently for me with Skillet’s song, Stars from their latest album, Unleashed.  The very first time I heard it I was right in the thick of those dark months I wrote about here where I was questioning God’s love for me.  It wasRead More →

Why I Want to Have Faith Like Joseph

  We’re working our way through a really great book in our family devotions.  It’s called The Story of the Bible, by Beverly Hubbard.  I highly recommend it.  Anyhow, tonight our reading covered the story of Joseph.  I’ve always been fascinated by Joseph’s story, but in recent years I feel like I’ve seen more and more each time I’ve read it that I just hadn’t ever noticed before. Isn’t that one of the most wonderful things about the Word of God?  It is alive!  I can spend the rest of my life reading the same stories over and over again and I will find somethingRead More →

The Next 90 Days

“Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you.” Deuteronomy 31:8 My heart is so heavy right now, and this is all I can do – trust that my God is going ahead of me and that He will be with me and that He will never fail me or abandon me.  It’s just about all I’ve got right now. The Council My love moved out tonight.  After the council we received last week we have decided together that a short separation is in order.  It’sRead More →

Well, here we are.  My love and I are home after our “intensive” week of counseling.  It was a very long, exhausting week, but we learned a lot about ourselves and our relationship.  I will share much more in the weeks to come.  We are still processing much of the information, and we’re still finalizing our “treatment plans.” There is one thing I would like to go ahead and talk about that I had to face about myself this week: I am a control freak y’all! The Delusion It’s not like that was a giant revelation.  Of course, I already knew I had control issues. Read More →