Staying Married After Betrayal - A Podcast with Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Several weeks ago I had the great honor and privilege to be interviewed by Anne for the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast. What a pleasure it was to talk to her that afternoon! If you’re not familiar with their ministry, Betrayal Trauma Recovery (or BTR.org) is an amazing resource for women reeling in the aftermath of discovering their husband’s infidelity or addiction. It is a secure, reliable, and healthy place for women who are looking for a safe-haven from the pain, chaos, and isolation associated with their husband’s abuse. They have a treasure trove of tools available to help their clients establish safety in their lives andRead More →

The Crucifixion and Resurrection of Jesus offered forgiveness and redemption for our sins, and totally changed the way our family was able to deal with my husband's sexual addiction & infidelities. Jesus changes everything! #hisdearlyloveddaughter #forgiveness #sexaddiction #affair #family #redemption #easter #goodfriday #thecross #heisalive

The crucifixion and the resurrection of Jesus Christ – Forgiveness & Redemption. The whole of Christianity hinges on those two events, and what they made possible. Yesterday marked the end of Holy Week with the celebration of Easter – Resurrection Sunday – so what better time to talk about how those two words – Forgiveness & Redemption – have impacted our little family this past year?  Romans 5:8-11 – But God showed His great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, He will certainly save us from God’s condemnation. For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of His SonRead More →

The Crucifixion and Resurrection of Jesus offered forgiveness and redemption for our sins, and totally changed the way our family was able to deal with my husband's sexual addiction & infidelities. Jesus changes everything! #hisdearlyloveddaughter #forgiveness #sexaddiction #affair #family #redemption #easter #goodfriday #thecross #heisalive

The crucifixion and the resurrection of Jesus Christ – Forgiveness & Redemption. The whole of Christianity hinges on those two events, and what they made possible. Yesterday marked the beginning of Holy Week, so what better time to talk about how those two words – Forgiveness & Redemption – have impacted our little family in this past year?  Romans 5:8-11 – But God showed His great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, He will certainly save us from God’s condemnation. For since our friendship with God was restored by theRead More →

After my husband's infidelities came into the open, we had to decide whether or not to tell our kids. It was a very difficult decision, but with God's help, we decided telling the truth was the best path forward. #hisdearlyloveddaughter #truth #parenting #marriage #infidelity #adultery #betrayal

I’ve been putting off writing about this part of our story for months. It’s one thing to tell you all about me and my love. We’re both adults who have mutually decided to share our story. But talking about our kids in depth is another thing. Like me, they didn’t ask to be thrown into this story. They’re victims of the terrible decisions of another. I want to protect them as much as possible. Still, deciding how to handle the family dynamics after intimate betrayal is a major problem that everyone in this situation has to navigate, and my readers have asked again and again for more information on why we decided toRead More →

Redeemed by the Blood - 9 Verses that Celebrate Jesus

We are redeemed! Am I right? We have so much to celebrate in our home this Easter season! Sure, the past few years have been difficult. There has been a lot of pain and a lot of sadness. Hearts have been broken, relationships badly damaged. But when we reflect on the redemptive work that God has done in our family, how can we do anything but rejoice? He has breathed new life into places long dead.  We are believing Him to continue that work and see it through to the day when He returns and completes what He has started in us. As we headRead More →

Introduction from Esther I’m excited to do something a little different here today. Hopefully, this will turn into a series over time and we’ll have the opportunity to hear from many Dearly Loved Daughters of the Lord God Almighty who have overcome intimate betrayal through His mighty power. Star has been a friend of the His Dearly Loved Daughter ministry from very early on. She was one of the first people to find this blog organically (not through a FB group for fellow bloggers) and message me with words of encouragement. She’s about one year ahead of me on the road to recovery, so herRead More →

What will God Do to Be My First Love? #agape #hisdearlyloveddaughter #love #firstlove #identityinchrist

“Why is God allowing this to happen to me?” It’s a question that hung in my soul for many years. Likely there are many reasons, and I won’t pretend to have it all figured out. But, as my relationship with God has deepened beyond anything I previously knew was possible, my eyes have been opened to something that might offer one explanation: I suspect my Lord wanted to be my First Love. A position He sadly, did not hold. (Though I would’ve told you He did.) It seems He wanted my whole and undivided heart, and He was willing to pursue me through the fires of hellRead More →

I’ve read the most wonderful book, Nuggets from the Heart, by Rosie Chavez Williams. If you’re looking for something encouraging to read, this is it! It’s a heart-warming compilation of short stories and testimonies from Rosie’s life. All of which point back to our wonderful Savior and His unfailing love and faithfulness.  A Little Bit About Rosie I first “met” Rosie almost a year ago when I started blogging. She was a member of some of the same blogging groups I joined, and she took notice of me and my writing very early on. She became one of my biggest cheer-leaders and encouragers over the first several months ofRead More →

As I talk with women in the throes of betrayal trauma, I often hear something like this: “I just don’t love him anymore. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to again. Did you ever feel this way? What did you do about it? What can I do?”   Let me start by saying, YEeeSsss! I felt that way. I don’t know if I would’ve been brave enough to say it out loud, but the sentiment was definitely there. Broken hearts do not love well. Not on their own. The good news is, God convicted me about this early on, and then gave me great victory very quickly. I’m eager to share with you what He taught me.   A word of warning though, whatRead More →

On February 6, 2017 I anxiously posted an announcement onto a social media page inviting the world to check out my blog. I was scared to death! I had registered my blog with WordPress on January 21st, just a few short weeks before. In those weeks I had been writing and learning like a whirlwind. The blog consisted of an “About Me” page, and a three-part series detailing “Our Story.”  I also had two additional posts mostly ready to go. Nonetheless, I had no idea what I was doing.  Little did I know what God had in store for the year to come! My life was in shambles, and in the midst of the chaos, God had whispered to me,Read More →