After my husband's infidelities came into the open, we had to decide whether or not to tell our kids. It was a very difficult decision, but with God's help, we decided telling the truth was the best path forward. #hisdearlyloveddaughter #truth #parenting #marriage #infidelity #adultery #betrayal

I’ve been putting off writing about this part of our story for months. It’s one thing to tell you all about me and my love. We’re both adults who have mutually decided to share our story. But talking about our kids in depth is another thing. Like me, they didn’t ask to be thrown into this story. They’re victims of the terrible decisions of another. I want to protect them as much as possible. Still, deciding how to handle the family dynamics after intimate betrayal is a major problem that everyone in this situation has to navigate, and my readers have asked again and again for more information on why we decided toRead More →

Redeemed by the Blood - 9 Verses that Celebrate Jesus

We are redeemed! Am I right? We have so much to celebrate in our home this Easter season! Sure, the past few years have been difficult. There has been a lot of pain and a lot of sadness. Hearts have been broken, relationships badly damaged. But when we reflect on the redemptive work that God has done in our family, how can we do anything but rejoice? He has breathed new life into places long dead.  We are believing Him to continue that work and see it through to the day when He returns and completes what He has started in us. As we headRead More →

Introduction from Esther I’m excited to do something a little different here today. Hopefully, this will turn into a series over time and we’ll have the opportunity to hear from many Dearly Loved Daughters of the Lord God Almighty who have overcome intimate betrayal through His mighty power. Star has been a friend of the His Dearly Loved Daughter ministry from very early on. She was one of the first people to find this blog organically (not through a FB group for fellow bloggers) and message me with words of encouragement. She’s about one year ahead of me on the road to recovery, so herRead More →

What will God Do to Be My First Love? #agape #hisdearlyloveddaughter #love #firstlove #identityinchrist

“Why is God allowing this to happen to me?” It’s a question that hung in my soul for many years. Likely there are many reasons, and I won’t pretend to have it all figured out. But, as my relationship with God has deepened beyond anything I previously knew was possible, my eyes have been opened to something that might offer one explanation: I suspect my Lord wanted to be my First Love. A position He sadly, did not hold. (Though I would’ve told you He did.) It seems He wanted my whole and undivided heart, and He was willing to pursue me through the fires of hellRead More →

I’ve read the most wonderful book, Nuggets from the Heart, by Rosie Chavez Williams. If you’re looking for something encouraging to read, this is it! It’s a heart-warming compilation of short stories and testimonies from Rosie’s life. All of which point back to our wonderful Savior and His unfailing love and faithfulness.  A Little Bit About Rosie I first “met” Rosie almost a year ago when I started blogging. She was a member of some of the same blogging groups I joined, and she took notice of me and my writing very early on. She became one of my biggest cheer-leaders and encouragers over the first several months ofRead More →

As I talk with women in the throes of betrayal trauma, I often hear something like this: “I just don’t love him anymore. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to again. Did you ever feel this way? What did you do about it? What can I do?”   Let me start by saying, YEeeSsss! I felt that way. I don’t know if I would’ve been brave enough to say it out loud, but the sentiment was definitely there. Broken hearts do not love well. Not on their own. The good news is, God convicted me about this early on, and then gave me great victory very quickly. I’m eager to share with you what He taught me.   A word of warning though, whatRead More →

On February 6, 2017 I anxiously posted an announcement onto a social media page inviting the world to check out my blog. I was scared to death! I had registered my blog with WordPress on January 21st, just a few short weeks before. In those weeks I had been writing and learning like a whirlwind. The blog consisted of an “About Me” page, and a three-part series detailing “Our Story.”  I also had two additional posts mostly ready to go. Nonetheless, I had no idea what I was doing.  Little did I know what God had in store for the year to come! My life was in shambles, and in the midst of the chaos, God had whispered to me,Read More →

6 Practical Steps to Implement REAL Self-Care  We’ve been looking at what the Bible has to teach us about self-care. Over the past three weeks we’ve learned that Jesus demonstrated self-care by making a habit of spending time alone with His Father, and by intentionally developing other spiritual disciplines. We learned that as members of the body of Christ, good self-care will include our whole body – the church. Finally, last week we learned that making time to rest is not only good self-care, but is commanded by God Himself. We also learned that there is really only one Source for true rest – Jesus Christ. This week, let’s wrapRead More →

Does God Care If I Make Time for Rest?  We’ve spent the past two weeks examining the topic of self-care from a Biblical perspective. We learned from the example of Jesus that it is vital for believers to make time to get alone with God on a very regular basis. We learned that good, God-honoring self-care always includes time to draw closer to Him, and to develop our spiritual disciplines. Though, this shouldn’t get in the way of occasional spontaneous opportunities to change our schedule and show compassion. We also learned that our definition of “self” is likely a little smaller than God intends. As believers, we’re part ofRead More →

“Self-Care” is About His Body Too Today we’re going to examine how self-care relates to “His body.” Last week we looked to the example of Jesus to try and learn what true, Biblical self-care looks like. We discovered that Jesus did, in fact, practice self-care during His time here on earth. Though, it didn’t really look much like the picture the world tries to paint for us.   Jesus made spending time alone with His Father a priority. He went through grueling spiritual preparations before entering into battle with Satan. He was in tune with the Holy Spirit, and willing to change His plans if God led Him a different way.Read More →