Do I want to Heal? Finding the courage to answer the hard questions

Asking ourselves the hard questions is a difficult but important part of the healing process. Questions like do I want to heal, do I trust God, and am I willing to obey no matter what have to be addressed. But even more important is having the courage to dig deep and answer them honestly! Until we can be real with ourselves and with God, we’ll never find the tools to deal with the situation as it actually stands. We’ll waste our time working on issues that don’t address the heart of the matter. So let’s ask ourselves one of those hard questions today. Let’s look at the answers thatRead More →

4 Myths about Recovery from Sexual Addiction

I hope you read last week’s post by my all-time favorite guest author, My Love! He shared the first two of four myths about recovery from sexual addiction, or, “lies sex addicts believe about recovery.” If you didn’t catch it, please go back and read it now. You really don’t want to miss it. Today he’ll finish up with the last two myths about recovery. We’re looking forward to many more posts from him in the future which you’ll now be able to find under the “For Him from My Love” category. Okay, here he is:  I spent more than 20 years of my life as a slave to sexual addiction. ThroughoutRead More →

4 Lies Sex Addicts Believe about Recovery

I’m so excited to be sharing a 2-part post with you all this week and next written by a very special guest author: My love! You guys have been asking for this for a while, and we heard you. In fact, we’re starting a whole new category for these posts, (For Him from My Love) so you can look forward to seeing more from him in the future! Today, he’s sharing some lies sex addicts believe about recovery. Not only are these lies that held him back for many years, they’re issues we’ve seen again and again in the lives of other addicts as we’ve spent the pastRead More →

How to Respond to the Infinite God of the Bible

For the past four weeks we’ve been studying the Bible to learn some of what the Infinite God has revealed to us about Himself. We discussed His identity as the Triune God, and unpacked the unique characteristics of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Today, we’ll wrap up this series with a look at His infinite qualities, and how we should respond.  Psalms 90:1-2 – Lord, through all generations, You have been our home! Before the mountains were born, before you gave birth to the earth and the world, from beginning to end, You are God.  The Infinite God who Made Himself Known  How incomprehensible the infinite is to us mortals! AsRead More →

Getting to Know God the Spirit

We’ve been working our way through a study of the One God of the Bible. In week one we examined how He reveals Himself in the form of three unique Persons. Then we spent a week studying the Father, one studying the Son, and now we have reached the week in which we’ll examine Scripture to see what we can learn about God the Spirit.  2 Corinthians 3:17-18 – For the Lord is the Spirit, and wherever the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the LordRead More →

Getting to Know God the Son

We have embarked upon a 5-week study to know God.  We started by learning about the Trinity – three Persons united as one God. Last week we learned about God the Father: His authority, sovereignty, adoption, discipline; His role as the One to whom we pray, and His love.  This week we are going to study Scripture to learn what we can about God the Son. Friends, there is no way to contain all there is to be known of Jesus in one blog post, so this is going to be both long, and shockingly inadequate. I’ve done my best to hit the most important aspects while keeping itRead More →

Getting to Know God the Father

Last week we decided to take a little break from all the betrayal trauma stuff and spend some time studying and getting to know our God. We started this five-week study by learning about the triune nature of God: how He can be both three distinct Persons, and the One God. For the next three weeks we’ll be learning about each member of the Godhead starting today with God the Father.   There are many attributes shared by all three members of the Trinity like omniscience and omnipotence, but there are also qualities that set Father, Son, and Holy Spirit apart. So, let’s take a lookRead More →

Getting to Know God through the Trinity

Let’s take a little break from all the sexual addiction and betrayal trauma content and spend a few weeks just getting to know our God a little better. Sometimes I need to step away and focus on my Savior, don’t you? Let’s spend the next 5 weeks doing a little study on God: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. This week we’ll learn about the Trinity. After that we’ll take three weeks dedicating one to each Person of the Godhead. Finally, in the fifth week we’ll examine our role – what should our response be to God?  The goal of all this is simple: We want to know God!  We wantRead More →

How to Move Past the Pain: Looking Beyond Yourself when Jesus is Calling

You guys, God is doing a work in my heart! Jesus is calling to me. I have been processing with Him ever since we got back from our trip to Senegal at the beginning of June. I’ve been almost paralyzed; unable to write because there were just so many thoughts swirling around in my head. I still don’t know exactly what He’s up to, but there are some things I do know, and I’d really love to share them with you.  Before we go any further, if you haven’t read Mariama’s story from our first trip a lot of what I’m going to talk about just isn’t going to makeRead More →

Is it Real Recovery? How to Recognize the fruit of the Spirit

For the past two weeks we’ve been digging into Galatians 5 to help us understand the quantifiable differences between a person who is living to please the Spirit – one who is repentant and in recovery, and one who is living to please the flesh – someone who is putting on a good show, but is still living in bondage to sin. More or less, we’re trying to understand the differences between the fruit of the Spirit and the fruit of the flesh. In week one we saw how we all fall under the curse of the law early in life and find ourselves inRead More →