Welcome to His Dearly Loved Daughter’s Resources Page. I have tried to compile as many useful tools as I can think of to help us all in our fight against Sexual addiction, Pornography, Betrayal Trauma, and the exploitation of human beings who have been created in the image of the Lord God Almighty and who are all precious to Him. If there’s something you’re looking for that you don’t see here, feel free to shoot me an email (firstname.lastname@example.org) and I’ll do my best to find what you need and add it for the rest of us too!
Internet Reporting / Filtering Software
While reporting and filtering software is not foolproof, and won’t fix a rebellious heart, it is a useful tool for those who wish to keep themselves accountable to another Christian. It can greatly aid in the healing of someone who desires to be healed. It is also a great tool to help rebuild broken trust with a betrayed spouse. (Assuming the betraying partner is being trustworthy!) Here are some of the most reliable resources on the market:
Accountable 2 You Features:
*Simple Device Management
*Real-time Alerts (Through text messaging)
*Full Activity Reports
Covenant Eyes Features:
*Equip your Conversations with Activity Reports
*Protect all your devices for one price
*Block the bad stuff with optional filtering
*Enjoy extensive Resources on their website to help you fight against pornography
Ever Accountable Features:
*Weekly full activity reports
*Choose your accountability partner
*Add to all your devices with one plan
**This page contains affiliate links. This means that Esther may make a small amount of money if you purchase something using one of the links on this page. Though that is true, Esther wholeheartedly endorses the resources she has listed here. She signed up to be an affiliate with them BECAUSE she believes in what they’re doing. Her commission will not affect your price at all. It will simply help compensate her for the time she invests in finding these resources for you. Click here for my full disclosure statement.
Recovery / Support Groups
A few words of caution from me – Recovery and support groups can be a wonderful tool to help both the addict and the partner of the addict heal. However, most of the widely available groups (such as SAnon and COSA) subscribe to the co-addict/co-dependent model. Please be careful and take that into consideration before putting too much stock into what they might say. True healing is found in Christ alone. There is no magic in the 12 steps. However, these groups can serve as tools. Here are a few options that I believe are a step above the more popular 12-step programs.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery is a wonderful resource, not just to find a great support group, but for many other healing tools as well! Click the image to check out their website and get connected to the help you’ve been looking for!
In my own, personal experience, Facebook support groups have proven more helpful than anything else. (I don’t think I’d recommend them for the addict, since I think social media should be avoided by sex addicts, but I highly recommend them for the partner.) In fact I am a member of several wonderful groups and would love to help you connect with the right one. If you’re interested in this, please either send me an email at email@example.com, or a private message on Facebook. I’ll ask you a few questions to figure out which groups would be the best fit for you, and then send you links so that you can request to join. These groups really are wonderful, if you’re looking for support from others on this road, these are a wonderful place to find that! I’ve made some amazing friends through these ministries.
Bible Study Tools
If you don’t have this app installed on your phone, you’re missing out! The Bible App is hands down my favorite tool for Bible study. I can’t tell you how helpful it has been for me. To have the Bible in thousands of translations available at my fingertips ALL the time – it’s unreal and SUCH a gift! Apart from that, my favorite Bible reading plan is available through this app. It keeps track of my progress for me, and even has a feature in which you can go through a study as a group and add questions and comments to discuss later as you read. Not to mention the verse of the day widget, (not available with IOS) which God has used countless times to speak to me in the moment.
This is my go-to resource when I have questions about a passage I’ve read, or when I need to find a list of verses on a specific topic. I especially love to use their commentary tool when I need help processing a specific passage.
When I’m writing, Bible Gateway is probably open. It’s my favorite website to find passages of scripture. I can easily switch between versions if I need clarity on a specific verse, and there are many other resources as well.
Books / Workbooks / Videos
Books for Her
Books for Him
Book Reviews –
Slowly but surely, I am reading and reviewing most of the books on this list. Click the link above to see all of my available reviews.
Sometimes, we are so bogged down in the anxiety and depression that comes as a result of betrayal trauma, that it is too hard to even focus enough to read a book. During those times, tools like Audible or Amazon Kindle Unlimited can be a wonderful resource. Get all the books you know might help you and listen as they are read to you.
Counseling / Coaching / Intensives
Faithful & True is the ministry of Mark and Debbie Laaser. Dr. Mark has been counseling in the area of sexual addiction recovery since 1995. The website offers many resources for your healing journey, including the Men of Valor podcast.
This is the coaching ministry of Jennifer Cole. Jennifer runs a unique practice because she is set up to meet with her clients virtually and can accommodate people all over the world! If you can’t find help in your area, this may be the place for you!
Fight the New Drug is an awesome organization with TONS of information about the harmful effects of pornography. These guys are taking this fight to a whole new level, and it’s awesome. Check out their website and get informed. While you’re at it, buy a t-shirt and let the world know you’re fighting for love!
*“Fight the New Drug is a non-religious, non-political organization that exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts.”