Welcome to His Dearly Loved Daughter's Resources Page.
We've tried to compile as many useful tools as we can to help us all fight against Sexual addiction, Pornography, Betrayal Trauma, and the exploitation of human beings who have been created in the image of the Lord God Almighty. We are all precious to Him. If there's something you're looking for that you don't see here, feel free to shoot us an email ([email protected]) and we'll do our best to find what you need and add it for the rest of us too!
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Internet Reporting / Filtering Software
While reporting and filtering software is not foolproof, and won't fix a rebellious heart, it is a useful tool for those who wish to keep themselves accountable to another Christian. It can greatly aid in the healing of someone who desires to be healed. It is also a great tool to help rebuild broken trust with a betrayed spouse. (Assuming the betraying partner is being trustworthy!) Here are some of the most reliable resources on the market:
There are lots of awesome resources out there, and HDLD Ministries is slowly growing our own library of useful tools.
Looking for one of our downloadable worksheets to go along with a book, study, or article you're working on? This is where you'll find it.
You'll also find our ever-growing library of books, workbooks, video series, and classes. So be sure to check it all out!
Recovery / Support Groups
**A few words of caution from me - Recovery and support groups can be a wonderful tool to help both the addict and the partner of the addict heal. However, most of the widely available groups (such as SAnon and COSA) subscribe to the co-addict/co-dependent model. Please be careful and take that into consideration before putting too much stock into what they might say. True healing is found in Christ alone. There is no magic in the 12 steps. However, these groups can serve as tools. The options I've listed here are, I believe, a step above the more popular 12-step programs, and I would highly recommend starting with them.
Journey to Healing and Joy is the ministry of Marsha Means and her team. Each member has been impacted by the sexual addiction of her partner and is committed to providing encouragement, hope, and support to other women in that terrible, confusing place! They offer counseling and coaching to women all over the world, as well as support groups, classes, a newsletter full of helpful articles and resources, and so much more! On top of all this, Marsha has written some of the most helpful books on the subject of betrayal trauma on the market. I believe God used “Your Sexually Addicted Spouse” – which she co-authored with Dr. Barbara Steffens – to save my life!
Betrayal Trauma Recovery is a wonderful resource, not just to find a great support group, but for many other healing tools as well! They offer a whole staff of APSATS trained coaches (All of whom have personally endured the sting of betrayal trauma) to help you find your way through recovery. You'll find classes (online) and curriculum as well as a wonderful podcast to help and encourage you. Click the image to check out their website and get connected to the help you've been looking for!
Affair Recovery is the ministry of Rick and Stephanie Reynolds. After surviving their own story of infidelity and betrayal, the couple developed a ministry designed solely to help marriages recover from affairs. Start your healing journey with them by attending one of their FREE week-long intensives. (First Steps Boot Camp) That's right. I said free! Once you've completed the intensive, you'll be ready to enter one of their online support groups. The beauty of this program is that it is all done online, so it's available to anyone, anywhere in the world with an internet connection. Check out their website for more information!
In my own experience, Facebook support groups have proven incredibly helpful. We don’t recommend them for the addict, since social media should be avoided by sex addicts, but highly recommend them for the partner. I've included an ad for one of those groups. This group was very helpful to me, and I highly recommend it.
We also have a group for betrayed wives who are very serious about their relationship with Christ, and seek to place Him first in their healing. It is a small, secret group filled with incredible, God-loving, prayer warrior women. If you'd be interested in joining, contact us HERE.
Books for Her:
Books for Him:
Counseling / Coaching / Intensives
Heart to Heart is the ministry of Dr. Doug Weiss. Here you'll find extensive resources as you work towards healing from sexual addiction, intimacy anorexia, and betrayal trauma.
Faithful & True is the ministry of Mark and Debbie Laaser. Dr. Mark has been counseling in the area of sexual addiction recovery since 1995. The website offers many resources for your healing journey, including the Men of Valor podcast.
This is the coaching ministry of Jennifer Cole. Jennifer runs a unique practice because she is set up to meet with her clients virtually and can accommodate people all over the world! If you can't find help in your area, this may be the place for you!
Movies / Television Streaming Service
At least in our family, we've set very strict guidelines around what we watch. The way we see it, there's just no reason to subject ourselves to content that could be triggering for me, or tempting for my love. Not to mention, we are trying to teach our kids the importance of strong personal boundaries. We want them to have the courage to live with integrity, even when it goes against the grain of what everyone else is doing. Companies like Pureflix help make that a lot easier!
Fight the New Drug is an awesome organization with TONS of information about the harmful effects of pornography. These guys are taking this fight to a whole new level, and it's awesome. Check out their website and get informed. While you're at it, buy a t-shirt and let the world know you're fighting for love!
*"Fight the New Drug is a non-religious, non-political organization that exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts."