The Crucifixion and Resurrection of Jesus offered forgiveness and redemption for our sins, and totally changed the way our family was able to deal with my husband's sexual addiction & infidelities. Jesus changes everything! #hisdearlyloveddaughter #forgiveness #sexaddiction #affair #family #redemption #easter #goodfriday #thecross #heisalive

The crucifixion and the resurrection of Jesus Christ – Forgiveness & Redemption. The whole of Christianity hinges on those two events, and what they made possible. Yesterday marked the end of Holy Week with the celebration of Easter – Resurrection Sunday – so what better time to talk about how those two words – Forgiveness & Redemption – have impacted our little family this past year?  Romans 5:8-11 – But God showed His great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, He will certainly save us from God’s condemnation. For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of His SonRead More →

The Crucifixion and Resurrection of Jesus offered forgiveness and redemption for our sins, and totally changed the way our family was able to deal with my husband's sexual addiction & infidelities. Jesus changes everything! #hisdearlyloveddaughter #forgiveness #sexaddiction #affair #family #redemption #easter #goodfriday #thecross #heisalive

The crucifixion and the resurrection of Jesus Christ – Forgiveness & Redemption. The whole of Christianity hinges on those two events, and what they made possible. Yesterday marked the beginning of Holy Week, so what better time to talk about how those two words – Forgiveness & Redemption – have impacted our little family in this past year?  Romans 5:8-11 – But God showed His great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, He will certainly save us from God’s condemnation. For since our friendship with God was restored by theRead More →

As I talk with women in the throes of betrayal trauma, I often hear something like this: “I just don’t love him anymore. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to again. Did you ever feel this way? What did you do about it? What can I do?”   Let me start by saying, YEeeSsss! I felt that way. I don’t know if I would’ve been brave enough to say it out loud, but the sentiment was definitely there. Broken hearts do not love well. Not on their own. The good news is, God convicted me about this early on, and then gave me great victory very quickly. I’m eager to share with you what He taught me.   A word of warning though, whatRead More →

Part Two – Be Informed. Know the Facts Last week we talked about the dangers of pornography in marriage from a Biblical perspective. This week let’s get informed about some of the facts surrounding this issue. There is much debate about whether or not pornography is actually addictive, especially among those in the mental health community. Much of this is due to the fact that as more and more information surfaces, “the experts” are having a really hard time defining what an addiction even is. New technology has provided a wealth of information about how the human brain works that just isn’t what they expected. Trying to fit thisRead More →

Pornography & Marriage in a Millennial World

Part One – Know Who You Are. Know Why It Matters  A few weeks ago, I had an experience that has rocked me to my core. Since that day I have been overwhelmed with a burden for the generation of women who identify as millennials. Many in this young group of ladies are entering the early years of marriage. My eyes have been opened to an issue they’re dealing with that breaks my heart. An issue that sends me to my knees.   It comes as no surprise to me that the world at large has turned a blind eye to the life-shattering dangers of pornography, but I was stunned to find that even among “moral”Read More →

*This post contains affiliate links. You can read my full disclosure statement here. Book Review: Hope for the Hurting Wife  I’m really excited to tell you about a book I’ve been reading – Hope for the Hurting Wife: 30 Days of Encouragement for Your Marriage by Rebekah Hallberg & Jen Stults. If you find yourself in a difficult spot in your marriage and are looking for something to fire you up each morning and renew your commitment to push through even when you’re stuck in the “for worse” of marriage, this is it!   Hope for the Hurting Wife offers 30 short, easy to read chapters withRead More →

I feel like I should start this post out with a giant disclaimer, because I really don’t feel qualified to write something so audacious so early in this process. It’s too soon to be able to tell if this is going to last, or even know for sure that it’s real. It’s too soon to claim any level of expertise.  I’m NOT an expert. I’m simply a student of the Word of God. As I walk this difficult road, I am looking to Him to show me truth, and I believe He’s led me to a passage that does exactly that.  Of course, I’m also a wife who is deeply in love withRead More →

I’ve hit a blogging milestone these past few weeks: My first extended bout of writer’s block. No matter what I’ve tried, when I sit down in front of my computer, I wind up just staring at the screen. No words have flown from the tips of my fingers as they usually do. There has been a deafening silence where there should be the clicking of keys. I’ve also been kinda down. Kinda really down, actually. I’m not sure which is the result of the other.  Do I have writer’s block because I’m down, or am I down because I have writer’s block? Who knows.  ButRead More →

A few weeks ago, I wrote about the importance of finding truth and knowing who, what, when, why, and how to trust when recovering from intimate betrayal.  I’d like to examine Scripture together and go a little deeper into that topic, delving into the importance of confession in the pursuit of total honesty. I’ll also discuss some of the choices I’ve had to make as the spouse of an addict; the choices that face all spouses of addicts. It’s a long and difficult road to navigate! The world is full of advice; full of “answers.”   It can be confusing, almost paralyzing to weigh the options in pursuit of the “right” answers.  Thank God, He gives us His Word toRead More →

How to Find Truth in Relationships Defined by Lies

Without question, one of the most difficult parts of recovering from intimate betrayal is learning how and when to start allowing trust to be rebuilt.  This becomes especially difficult when there have been multiple betrayals strung out over long periods of time, with periods of believed sobriety in between.  How can we ever know what’s true when life has been one huge lie after another?  How can we ever believe that the evidences of change are real this time when they’ve been nothing more than a mirage so many times before?  While things are going very well for us right now, I’d be lying if I said this isn’t still a hugeRead More →