I hope you read last week’s post by my all-time favorite guest author, My Love! He shared the first two of four myths about recovery from sexual addiction, or, “lies sex addicts believe about recovery.” If you didn’t catch it, please go back and read it now. You really don’t want to miss it. Today he’ll finish up with the last two myths about recovery. We’re looking forward to many more posts from him in the future which you’ll now be able to find under the “For Him from My Love” category.
I’m so excited to be sharing a 2-part post with you all this week and next written by a very special guest author: My love! You guys have been asking for this for a while, and we heard you. In fact, we’re starting a whole new category for these posts, (For Him from My Love) so you can look forward to seeing more from him in the future! Today, he’s sharing some lies sex addicts believe about recovery. Not only are these lies that held him back for many years, they’re issues we’ve seen again and again in the lives of other addicts as we’ve spent the past year working alongside other couples on the journey to recovery.
We’ve been looking at the life of Joshua the past few weeks and learning from one of the most complex characters in the Bible. He started out as a minor supporting character – Moses’s assistant. During his time in that role, Joshua watched and learned. He communed with God, and his faith grew and grew and grew. Then Moses died, and Joshua was called to take over as the leader of Israel. The command for his life – be strong and courageous for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Up to this point in the story Joshua has certainly been brave. He’s been faithful, and obedient. He’s demonstrated strength and courage, just as God asked him to. We’ve come to know him as a calm, easy-going leader. We’re impressed with his willingness to do whatever is asked of him, but not necessarily surprised by it. In fact, up until now, we probably feel like Joshua is fairly known to us. Predictable. Tame. Boy are we about to be stunned as the fierce warrior comes to the forefront!
It’s time! God has taken more than 40 years to prepare Joshua for the job that only one person in all of history would do: lead the people of Israel into the promised land. I often feel like this massive task has sort of disappeared into the pages of history; seemingly forgotten, or at least overshadowed by other stories, but it was a huge job, and Joshua was a beast! After so many years in the shadow of Moses, Joshua now emerges with an unexpected amalgam of character qualities.
I have always loved reading about Joshua in the Bible. For so many reasons, he is a man that intrigues me. One that I believe there is much to learn from. From the very first time he shows up, all the way through his life, and on into the New Testament, (when he makes it into the Hebrews 11 Faith Hall of Fame) Joshua embodies a life of faith, courage, and obedience. And though he has always been special to me, this particular season of my life brought an even greater appreciation for all that the Bible has to teach me through the story of this amazing man of God. The theme of his life, “Be strong and courageous” has become a mantra I repeat to myself again and again, because like Joshua, the Lord my God is with me wherever I go!
Have you ever wondered if it’s even possible to win the victory over unwelcome thoughts in your mind? The Bible offers some simple, though not easy steps to show us how to achieve victory.
Refusing to confess our sins leads to misery and defeat. On the other hand, a life lived in complete honesty – allowing sin and guilt to come out into the open – will be cleared of guilt, and will be rewarded with the joy that comes from being forgiven. The result is victory! How different the Christian life would be if we truly embraced this principle; if we all had the humility to live it each and every day! Lord, humble me so that I will be quick to confess my sins and shortcomings and live in the victory You offer!
Our Bible reading plan through those first few months took us through Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, and Deuteronomy. (The story of Moses and the Israelites) If you’ve ever read them, you know these books can become somewhat difficult to get through. Once you get past the first half of Exodus there isn’t a whole lot of narrative, at least not in big chunks. Instead, there are seemingly endless lists of laws, regulations, instructions on how to build the tabernacle, instructions on how to divide the land, inventories of materials needed to build the tabernacle, genealogies, and other lengthy records. Meanwhile when sections of narrative do show up they can be exasperating as the people of Israel complain, argue, and disobey God time and time again. Of course, it’s Scripture, which means it’s inspired by God and useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training. Never has that truth been more clear to me than in these past few months as my love has devoured these words of God and found beautiful lessons each and every day in some of the most unlikely places. What a joy it is to witness the work of the Holy Spirit in the life of someone you love!
Upon the recommendation of our therapist, I started to read The Anxiety Cure, by Dr. Archibald Hart. It is the most helpful, informative, yet Biblically sound resource on this topic I’ve ever found. Reading it changed so much about how I think about Anxiety and Depression because it helped me to actually understand the physiological aspects. If you suspect that you or someone you know may suffer from Depression or an Anxiety Disorder, this book is for you!
Well, we’re halfway through the 90 day therapeutic separation. I thought it would be a good idea to give a little update because God has been doing some big stuff! We ended up changing a few of the parameters to the plan after about a week. I’d like to explain those changes and then get to telling you about some of those big ole mountains God has been moving.