Do I Trust God's Good Plan for Me?

We’ve resolved to find the courage to ask ourselves the hard questions, and answer them honestly, understanding it is a difficult but important part of the healing process. We’ve already wrestled with whether or not we want to heal. We’ve looked our Healer in the eyes and evaluated our instinct to answer, “I can’t,” finding in that process the tools we needed to finally pick up our mats and walk! We’re moving forward now, refusing to go back to old ways and answering another hard question today: Do I trust God’s good plan for me? Let’s dig deep and evaluate ourselves honestly, because this isRead More →

Do I want to Heal? Finding the courage to answer the hard questions

Asking ourselves the hard questions is a difficult but important part of the healing process. Questions like do I want to heal, do I trust God, and am I willing to obey no matter what have to be addressed. But even more important is having the courage to dig deep and answer them honestly! Until we can be real with ourselves and with God, we’ll never find the tools to deal with the situation as it actually stands. We’ll waste our time working on issues that don’t address the heart of the matter. So let’s ask ourselves one of those hard questions today. Let’s look at the answers thatRead More →

How to Move Past the Pain: Looking Beyond Yourself when Jesus is Calling

You guys, God is doing a work in my heart! Jesus is calling to me. I have been processing with Him ever since we got back from our trip to Senegal at the beginning of June. I’ve been almost paralyzed; unable to write because there were just so many thoughts swirling around in my head. I still don’t know exactly what He’s up to, but there are some things I do know, and I’d really love to share them with you.  Before we go any further, if you haven’t read Mariama’s story from our first trip a lot of what I’m going to talk about just isn’t going to makeRead More →

How Biblical Boundaries Put God in Control

Biblical Boundaries – A 6 Part Series  If you’ve been with us for the past 5 weeks, we’ve been working our way through a series on Biblical boundaries. We’ve learned a lot! Today, we’re finally going to wrap this series up with a quick reminder of who’s in control. What it’s so easy to forget in the midst of all the chaos of life is that being obedient to God in this area (really in any area) allows us to step out of the way and Him to do His work. It puts God in control! But before we move forward, here’s what you may have missed: Read More →

We've established that God wants us to have boundaries, but how do we actually set Biblical boundaries in our lives? Here are 5 steps, along with a free printable worksheet to help you set down some boundaries of your own. #hisdearlyloveddaughter #freeprintable #biblicalboundaries #godinthehardplaces #boundaries #marriage #affairrecovery #settingboundaries

Biblical Boundaries – A 6 Part Series We’ve spent the past four weeks learning what the Bible has to say about boundaries. Now it’s time to take what we’ve learned and figure out how to practically apply it. Today, we’re answering the question, “How do I actually set Biblical boundaries?” It’s time to come up with a strategy for laying out our borders, building our fences, and installing our gates. In case you’ve missed the earlier parts of this series, here’s what we’ve been learning (it builds the foundation for what we’ll do today, so you might want to catch up!):  WEEK 1: Defining Boundaries – God’s WayRead More →

5 Rules from Scripture for making Biblical Boundaries #hisdearlyloveddaughter #boundaries #betrayaltraumarecovery #marriage #biblicalboundaries #godinthehardplaces #imitateGod #biblestudy

Biblical Boundaries – A 6 Part Series We’ve been spending some time learning about Biblical boundaries over the past 3 weeks. We’ve already spent two weeks defining and laying out some Biblical principles surrounding the establishment of good, healthy boundaries, and there are still 2 more weeks to go. Today we ask, what’s a boundary rule, and what does the Bible say about setting them? In case you’ve missed the earlier parts, here’s a rundown of the whole series: WEEK 1: Defining Boundaries – God’s Way WEEK 2: 5 Principles of Healthy Boundaries we Learn from God. WEEK 3: 5 More Principles of Biblical Boundaries we LearnRead More →

In this third part of the Biblical Boundaries series, we'll explore 5 more principles we can learn about boundaries from observing God's boundaries in the Bible. #hisdearlyloveddaughter #godinthehardplaces #gracegirls #boundaries #biblicalboundaries #healthyboundaries #marriage #brokenmarriage #healthymarriage

Biblical Boundaries – A 6 Part Series We’re spending some time learning about Biblical boundaries around here. We’ve already spent two weeks defining and laying out some Biblical principles surrounding the establishment of good, healthy boundaries, and there are still 4 more weeks to go. Here’s what you can expect from the series: WEEK 1: Defining Boundaries – God’s Way WEEK 2: 5 Principles of Healthy Boundaries we Learn from God. WEEK 3: 5 More Principles of Biblical Boundaries we Learn from God. WEEK 4: 5 Rules for Making Boundaries Clearly Laid Out in Scripture WEEK 5: How Do I Set Biblical Boundaries? 5 Steps to Get YouRead More →

In this second part of the Biblical Boundaries series, we'll explore 5 principles we can learn about boundaries from observing God's boundaries in the Bible.

Biblical Boundaries – A 6 Part Series We’re spending some time learning about healthy boundaries around here. Last week we started the Biblical Boundaries series, and we’ll keep it going for the next four weeks too! Here’s what you can expect: WEEK 1: Defining Boundaries – God’s Way WEEK 2: 5 Principles of Healthy Boundaries we Learn from God. WEEK 3: 5 More Principles of Biblical Boundaries we Learn from God. WEEK 4: 5 Rules for Making Boundaries Clearly Laid Out in Scripture WEEK 5: How Do I Set Biblical Boundaries? 5 Steps to Get You Started WEEK 6: How Biblical Boundaries Put God in Control WEEK 2:Read More →

Part One in the Biblical Boundaries Series

Biblical Boundaries – A 6 Part Series Establishing strong, Biblical boundaries is one of the hardest, yet most important things for a betrayed wife to do. Really, for any believer to do. Unfortunately, it’s a task that leaves most of us wondering where and how to even start. Many of us have spent our lives believing that unconditional love looks different than the Bible actually describes it. We mistakenly think setting boundaries is mean, or unloving, or… gasp… un-submissive. In fact, it is often the most loving, God-honoring thing we can do! God sets strong boundaries with us, and He makes it clear in Scripture that we are to do the same in ourRead More →

Staying Married After Betrayal - A Podcast with Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Several weeks ago I had the great honor and privilege to be interviewed by Anne for the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast. What a pleasure it was to talk to her that afternoon! If you’re not familiar with their ministry, Betrayal Trauma Recovery (or BTR.org) is an amazing resource for women reeling in the aftermath of discovering their husband’s infidelity or addiction. It is a secure, reliable, and healthy place for women who are looking for a safe-haven from the pain, chaos, and isolation associated with their husband’s abuse. They have a treasure trove of tools available to help their clients establish safety in their lives andRead More →