Introduction from Esther I’m excited to do something a little different here today. Hopefully, this will turn into a series over time and we’ll have the opportunity to hear from many Dearly Loved Daughters of the Lord God Almighty who have overcome intimate betrayal through His mighty power. Star has been a friend of the His Dearly Loved Daughter ministry from very early on. She was one of the first people to find this blog organically (not through a FB group for fellow bloggers) and message me with words of encouragement. She’s about one year ahead of me on the road to recovery, so herRead More →

What will God Do to Be My First Love? #agape #hisdearlyloveddaughter #love #firstlove #identityinchrist

“Why is God allowing this to happen to me?” It’s a question that hung in my soul for many years. Likely there are many reasons, and I won’t pretend to have it all figured out. But, as my relationship with God has deepened beyond anything I previously knew was possible, my eyes have been opened to something that might offer one explanation: I suspect my Lord wanted to be my First Love. A position He sadly, did not hold. (Though I would’ve told you He did.) It seems He wanted my whole and undivided heart, and He was willing to pursue me through the fires of hellRead More →

6 Practical Steps to Implement REAL Self-Care  We’ve been looking at what the Bible has to teach us about self-care. Over the past three weeks we’ve learned that Jesus demonstrated self-care by making a habit of spending time alone with His Father, and by intentionally developing other spiritual disciplines. We learned that as members of the body of Christ, good self-care will include our whole body – the church. Finally, last week we learned that making time to rest is not only good self-care, but is commanded by God Himself. We also learned that there is really only one Source for true rest – Jesus Christ. This week, let’s wrapRead More →

Does God Care If I Make Time for Rest?  We’ve spent the past two weeks examining the topic of self-care from a Biblical perspective. We learned from the example of Jesus that it is vital for believers to make time to get alone with God on a very regular basis. We learned that good, God-honoring self-care always includes time to draw closer to Him, and to develop our spiritual disciplines. Though, this shouldn’t get in the way of occasional spontaneous opportunities to change our schedule and show compassion. We also learned that our definition of “self” is likely a little smaller than God intends. As believers, we’re part ofRead More →

“Self-Care” is About His Body Too Today we’re going to examine how self-care relates to “His body.” Last week we looked to the example of Jesus to try and learn what true, Biblical self-care looks like. We discovered that Jesus did, in fact, practice self-care during His time here on earth. Though, it didn’t really look much like the picture the world tries to paint for us.   Jesus made spending time alone with His Father a priority. He went through grueling spiritual preparations before entering into battle with Satan. He was in tune with the Holy Spirit, and willing to change His plans if God led Him a different way.Read More →

Is Self-Care a Pride Issue?  It’s a big buzz word these days – Self-Care. Especially in the world of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. Unfortunately, it’s an idea that’s always kinda rubbed me the wrong way. The concept feels contrary to the self-sacrificing life I’ve always believed I’m called to lead as a follower of Christ.   When the proverbial uh-hum… dookey?… hit the fan, though, I was forced to re-evaluate my beliefs in just about every area of my life. I had to take a magnifying glass to my heart and allow the Word of God to divide out the things that didn’t line up. As I started down the long road to recovery, the ideaRead More →

Part Two – Be Informed. Know the Facts Last week we talked about the dangers of pornography in marriage from a Biblical perspective. This week let’s get informed about some of the facts surrounding this issue. There is much debate about whether or not pornography is actually addictive, especially among those in the mental health community. Much of this is due to the fact that as more and more information surfaces, “the experts” are having a really hard time defining what an addiction even is. New technology has provided a wealth of information about how the human brain works that just isn’t what they expected. Trying to fit thisRead More →

Part One – Know Who You Are. Know Why It Matters  A few weeks ago, I had an experience that has rocked me to my core. Since that day I have been overwhelmed with a burden for the generation of women who identify as millennials. Many in this young group of ladies are entering the early years of marriage. My eyes have been opened to an issue they’re dealing with that breaks my heart. An issue that sends me to my knees.   It comes as no surprise to me that the world at large has turned a blind eye to the life-shattering dangers of pornography, but I was stunned to find that even among “moral”Read More →

*This post contains affiliate links. You can read my full disclosure statement here. Book Review: Hope for the Hurting Wife  I’m really excited to tell you about a book I’ve been reading – Hope for the Hurting Wife: 30 Days of Encouragement for Your Marriage by Rebekah Hallberg & Jen Stults. If you find yourself in a difficult spot in your marriage and are looking for something to fire you up each morning and renew your commitment to push through even when you’re stuck in the “for worse” of marriage, this is it!   Hope for the Hurting Wife offers 30 short, easy to read chapters withRead More →

I feel like I should start this post out with a giant disclaimer, because I really don’t feel qualified to write something so audacious so early in this process. It’s too soon to be able to tell if this is going to last, or even know for sure that it’s real. It’s too soon to claim any level of expertise.  I’m NOT an expert. I’m simply a student of the Word of God. As I walk this difficult road, I am looking to Him to show me truth, and I believe He’s led me to a passage that does exactly that.  Of course, I’m also a wife who is deeply in love withRead More →