Falling in Love
We met when we were 16, became a couple within months of meeting and were completely enamored with each other in almost no time. We were young, but even then it was obvious to us and to most everyone who knew us that we were meant for each other. There was just something about us that fit together like puzzle pieces. We waited the years that our parents made us wait and then we got married. We were 20, we were broke and we had no idea what the rest of our life was going to look like, but we knew we were going to face it together.
It didn’t take long at all for the realities of life to set in. We got pregnant almost immediately which was terrifying to both of us. We hadn’t even figured out how to take care of ourselves, how in the world were we going to take care of a BABY? We were still babies! We weren’t ready to be parents! At least, that’s what we thought. On top of that, my love hadn’t really figured out what he wanted to do with his life yet and money was tighter than tight. We thought we had more time for this stuff. We were scared! The pregnancy was a nightmare. I was sick the whole time and starting in the fifth month was put on bedrest because they thought I was going to go into pre-term labor. My love’s business was failing and he had no idea what else to do. We were in full-on panic mode. Bills were piling up, there was no money and this baby was going to be here any day.
Then she came. Our perfect little blessing from God. Our first lesson in God’s perfect timing! We were overwhelmed with love for this precious gift! I had never been one of those girls that just loved to be around kids and melted over babies. I didn’t really think I even wanted to have kids at all. Boy was I wrong! Within days of becoming a mother I knew this is what I was made for! Suddenly I wanted a whole house full of children, and my love, who came from a big family and had always liked kids anyhow was right there with me! Of course, he carried the weight of how to provide for this big family we were going to have, so he wasn’t quite as gung-ho as I was, but he definitely liked the idea.
In these years we learned that we really do like each other just as much as we thought we did when we were dating. Maybe even more! We learned how much we enjoy spending time together – always. We learned that we had very similar parenting philosophies and approaches. In fact, we learned that in most areas of life we were very like-minded despite the fact that our personalities were almost exactly opposite from each other. We learned that those differences in our personalities were extremely complimentary and seemed to offer balance to life whenever we work as a team. We learned that I’m a little OCD and my love is a bit of a slob. We learned that I am TERRIBLE at handling finances and can’t pay a bill on time to save my life. (He handles ALL bill paying now and life is much better!) I learned that you have to take the plastic wrap off a frozen pizza BEFORE you put it in the oven. (I know – I really should’ve already known that!) We learned that I am not very “stuff” oriented and that my love really likes to buy things on impulse. The biggest thing, though is that we started to learn that God’s timing is always better and to trust Him with the details even when they don’t seem to make any sense to us. Let’s be honest, does anyone ever truly learn that lesson? Of course, we still tried to make our own plans and of course, our feathers still got ruffled every time God said, “No, I’m gonna do this instead. Trust Me.” But we were learning. They were happy years.